This time of year is the best! For us musicians, there are so many concerts, gigs and engagements to attend and participate in, it can get a little crazy. If you’re like me, in addition to the extra material to prepare and perform, there is still a main work or piece you are working on for a date after the holidays. Right now, I am polishing a Bach Fugue and ironing out the kinks of a Beethoven Sonata, while prepping for several Messiah concerts and other Christmas performances. In view of this busy season, here are my simple and best tips for practicing and continuing to progress through this holiday season:
- No matter what performances and gigs you may have during this season, remember the most important thing is loving on your family and friends. Long practice hours may be shortened and that’s ok as long as your practice time is focused and efficient.
- Time is usually more limited during the holidays so purposeful, efficient, and effective practice are a necessity. Use Practice Partner to track your progress and time spent within each practice session no matter how long or short.
- Always review your practice notes from the previous day. This will engage your memory and provide direction to your practice from the start.
- Play something fun and play for others! This will keep you sharp and bring happiness to you and your audience.
I hope you have joy in your performing this season and that it fills your heart with light as it brings joy to others.
What a whirlwind summer it has been! Lots of precious time with my family and traveling; not as much time practicing as I had intended. But, that’s okay. I’ve set a new practice list, clarified goals, fixed performance dates, and know I have a lot of work to do to connect to my music and performances. It’s thrilling and frightening all at once.
A true highlight that has come to fruition in the last few months is this interview I did for Ownit Magazine. I love the mission and purpose of this magazine–to uplift, empower, embolden, encourage, inspire and assure women everywhere, no matter what life circumstances they may find themselves. While it features well-known powerhouse women we may read of in the news, it also covers those of us in the trenches, doing equally important, invaluable work each day.
I am one of those women in the trenches and I’ll tell you, I haven’t always thought of myself as important, invaluable, or successful. It is still something I question daily, in fact. But in recent years, I have felt an undeniable realization that no matter what accolades, awards, or recognition I receive, or do not receive, I have intrinsic worth. I have the power to uplift and encourage and love those around me. This is power. This elevates not only those I serve, but myself as well. I feel greater joy, peace, and hope in the daily tasks of life.
Please take a look at the articles of this incredible magazine and share it with the women in your life. Subscriptions are free and available to everyone. I hope that my story will lend hope to someone who may come across it. I feel so grateful and blessed to have been introduced to the magazine’s creator and Editor, Sietske Cuhfus, who is wholly dedicated to empowering women everywhere and making success not just a dream, but a reality for them.
Are you? Can you answer confidently that the path you are on is your purpose and calling? Some find their purpose early on. Others take a lifetime of experiences to carve out their space in the world. My life as a wife, mother, musician and teacher never seems at a loss for things to do, and I am constantly checking in with myself to make sure my best efforts are keeping me aligned with my talents, passion and desire to do and give my best.
Today, I have enjoyed this admonishment for living my best life from American-poet, Mary Oliver:
Instructions for living a life: Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.”
Looking at these from a musician’s perspective is inspiring.
- PAY ATTENTION. We would all do well to eliminate distractions that steal time and effort from our goals. Whether you are a musician or businessman, distractions are the interference that prevent us from doing our best. It isn’t our lack of ability, or talent that holds us back. It is the interference we get from the lifestyle we make or even the voice in our head that may tell us we cannot do what we dream of doing. Now, I cannot–nor would I want to–eliminate my biggest interference or distraction of my four children, but I can find ways to make our schedules work to support the growth of us all. I have to choose times to teach and practice that support them, which eliminates my distractions when I need to pay attention to my goals. Pay attention also means respecting the music in the way the composer intended. Each note is part of a larger picture, moving to or away from a thought or emotion. When I pay attention while performing, the music is being created with intent, heart, and feeling. I am invested and connected through each phrase and articulation. The technical chatter that may fill my head during intense practice of a piece is no longer there in the performance. I have removed the interference of the voice in my head, enabling the music to really happen. The advice to pay attention also includes being aware of the people around us in a way that fosters meaningful connections. These connections are what really matters in life. I love teaching violin and piano. I realize this more and more as I prepare music and think of ways to inspire and reach my students. I value the connections I make with each person who enters my studio. The advice to pay attention helps us to see and understand things as they really are in the moment they are happening.
- BE ASTONISHED. Be surprised. Be grateful. Be childlike. A musician who keeps this quality is able to enjoy their efforts and performances so much more than a musician who is complacent. Always be grateful for the opportunity to play music. Be grateful for an audience who appreciates what you do. Be happy to teach each student. Always hope and prepare for the best outcomes. Failures and shortcomings, are part of the process and shouldn’t be discouraging, but rather an invitation to learn more. Be anxiously engaged in reaching for the next goal no matter what your level of ability is.
- TELL ABOUT IT. I love this one because it echoes what my own mother has always instructed me to do. She would say that once I had learned something, I had a duty to share it. This isn’t in a self-promoting way at all. It is with the intent to lift and care for others. I have practiced nearly my whole life to attain a level of mastery on two instruments. What good would those hours of practice do if I only played for myself? I feel and love the responsibility to teach and to play every occasion that comes to me because of this advice. And I think this is why I love to teach and to perform so much! I am sharing a huge part of who I am in the hope of lifting and inspiring others.
As you consider living your best life, remember the advice of Mary Oliver. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.
I am always delighted with the highlights of classical musicians from Strings Magazine. From a recent article on the rising fame of violinist, Vilde Frang, I was happy reading about her upbringing, mentors, and education. She, too, loves Ann-Sophie Mutter, as I do, but her intense preparation and devotion to her instrument from an early age made a way for her path to take her too her idol, carving out the way for her to be where she is today–a world-class soloist and recording artist.
I was particularly struck by her description in the article of the sacrifice required to become what she is today. Mutter had clearly spelled this out to Vilde when she auditioned for and received a scholarship to Mutter’s foundation. “She told me that there’s such big competition out there and if you really want to make a living out of your violin playing, you have to move to Germany, you have to study, you have to finish school, you have to spend full time on your performing and practicing.” In my own experience watching other musicians intently, “full-time” goes above and beyond the regular scope of a “9-to-5” job. It is all encompassing–emotionally draining practicing for long hours each day; rehearsals and practices with other musicians, accompanists, orchestras, often late into the night; answering emails and phone calls; recording practices and performances; intensive listening and study of scores and parts. It is far more than just putting in a few hours of thought and practice. These professional musicians are in a realm similar to elite athletes. The flawless execution and moving performances are the result of such intense living. When I listen to their recordings, I am moved even more considering the hours and years of work that goes into such expression that can be so invigorating, calming, refreshing, and emotional to my soul.
I also smiled to read her descriptions of two of her teachers in Germany that were in such contrast to one another, and the good that those opposite interactions did for her playing and progression. A “healthy contrast” as she describes it. One teacher was immensely caring and loving and the other “was like cold showers every lesson. He would not hesitate to tell [her] exactly what he thought…”
I have reflected on my teachers, past and present. Some I looked forward to seeing each week, and others I dreaded. Some were warm and encouraging, and others were more harsh. I needed both types of music education. The key for a teacher to succeed in reaching, pushing and encouraging a student is getting the balance right between a caring atmosphere, and one that has high expectations and demands that enable the student to reach out of their comfort zone and see the possibilities that lay ahead of them. There must be inspiration to make the sacrifice of all the practice, frustration, and diligence worth it.
I look forward to listening to Frang’s recordings. Knowing a bit of her background will certainly make them feel more personal and real as I do. And isn’t this connection in humanity what we all seek and hope for? Commonalities that bind us together, and greatness and talent that gives us hope and appreciation for what is possible. Music truly can make life beautiful.
It’s finally summer holidays and I am so happy to feel an easing in scheduling, teaching and practicing. Don’t get me wrong–my student-load remains the same and often increases, and I practice the same amount, however, I enjoy the sunshine, flexible morning lessons, and having my children home to work and play with.
I love summer lessons because I see my students progress in leaps and bounds, even taking breaks for holidays and camps. There is a refreshing that comes in new material and summer-specific goals that propels this progress. I always emphasize a healthy balance of play and work that seems to invigorate my students, and myself.
I know a few teachers who feel quite the opposite, experiencing student turnover, students who do not practice, and vacations that last several weeks which halts progress and enthusiasm. It can be unsettling and discouraging. Learning to see the positives in the ebb and flow of a private music-teaching studio is key. Leaner times call for honing skill, technique, and planning future solo recitals. It is also a great time to connect with other teachers and learn from each other.
Major life events can upset a smooth schedule, as well. For example, I already know that I will be moving across the country or overseas, again, next summer. I know that my private teaching will be put on hold for at least a month, but I look forward to this time in my personal practice and study of teaching. I evaluate what has worked well in my teaching studio in the past, and plan a few alterations, new books or methods to try.
For students–Plan to practice consistently through the summer! Plan to be experimental, trying new ways of practicing, and picking music outside of your comfort zone that may be fun and challenging in a new way. Set a summer-specific goal to accomplish to keep your focus clear and effective.
For parents–Encourage your child through your example. Is there a new skill you have been wanting to learn? Share that with your child and tell them that you plan to practice that skill when they are practicing their instrument. Share your progress and check in often. Encourage consistency and work around your vacations and outings with a positive attitude. Practicing should never feel like a punishment. It should feel like an accomplishment! My own children know not to ask for friends to come over or other special privileges until they have practiced (right now it’s piano and drums for my two oldest).
I would love to hear what works for you! How do you encourage summer practicing?
Here are a few other articles on summer music tips:
I am asked all the time what age is best to begin music lessons. Parents want the best possible start for their child, and knowing the best time to begin is an important part of ensuring commitment, growth, and success in learning any instrument. My education and experience is in teaching the violin and piano.
To respond to the enquiring parent, I always ask them to tell me a little about their child who is interested in beginning the violin or the piano. Do they love music? Have they been to a performance or concert that really moved them? I also ask the parent a bit about themselves and their desire to have their child begin lessons. Are they willing to encourage their child’s efforts and commit to practicing consistently? What is their goal for their child in taking private music lessons? Knowing these initial expectations helps me as a teacher to give the best recommendation for a child to start private lessons.
The best age? My flat answer is 6-8 years old. During these years a child has learned to read, and their fine motor skills have become more refined. Their attention span is long enough to stay engaged with a great teacher for a 30-minute lesson. They are able to practice mostly on their own, following directions from their teacher. They feel a great sense of achievement and pride in their work as they see their skills rapidly increase from the start. The whole lesson experience starts off on a much more positive and progressive note than beginning at younger ages.
I have taught many, many children that are younger than my recommended age to begin, the youngest ones being age 3. In this situation, it is imperative that the parent understands the rate of progress of the student will be different, and the commitment and involvement of the parent is somewhat greater. Lessons for younger students take on a different format to utilize a shorter attention span and maximize their enjoyment of the instrument and the time together. This is to ensure that their love of the instrument will grow as they spend time with their teacher and the parent in practicing together. I involve the parent in the lesson as much as possible, enlisting them to take notes, teaching them alongside their child so that quality practicing can happen at home together. Some of the best musicians and performers were introduced to their instruments at very young ages. Knowing this can help parents to be patient with a slower rate of progression in skill and capacity with their young child.
Each child is different and I love teaching all ages. Parental involvement and support is important at any age. While I recommend parents wait to pay for formal private lessons until their child is age 6-8, I also feel it is important to say that any age beyond that is a great time to start. I know musicians who developed a love for their instrument during Junior High or High School, or much, much later in life. Sadly, it is all too common for these later ages to have difficulty finding great teachers who are willing to teach any age. Some teachers only know how to teach children, or do not see the point to teaching older students.
I feel strongly that music is a source of great joy and deepens our life experience. Music is for all ages, stages, capacities, and abilities. Many of my favorite students are adults. What courage and dedication it takes to begin a musical instrument later in life! I have so much joy in seeing them perform and reach goals that they thought were impossible when we began lessons together.
The best way to ensure success in beginning private music lessons is to find a great teacher. Find one that gets you, one that you feel a connection with, one that is as committed to your goals as you are. You can read my previous blog post on how to find a great teacher here.
Here are some great resources on the best age to begin music lessons:
This one is personal. As a child, youth, and young adult I don’t recall feeling overly nervous to perform. There was a healthy amount of anticipation, butterflies in my stomach, cold fingers, even self doubt, but nothing debilitating. I was often excited about dressing up for a performance and excited to share something I thought was pretty cool about myself. Memorization seemed to come easily and was uninhibited by any nervousness or performance jitters. I felt somewhat invincible, truthfully.
As I applied and auditioned for acceptance into my Master of Music program, I’ll admit I was still a bit heady having put together my resumé of a brief lifetime of experience and qualifications. That audition marked an abrupt change in how I dealt with and managed stage fright. There were no horrific memory slips or mistakes, just a quiet realization that I was a fish out of water–a fish that thought they had been in water all along, until that point. You see, I had purposely taken a twelve year break from active study and performance of the violin to pursue other worthy goals and passions. My Bachelor of Science Degree was in Business, with a Minor in International Business. I also had earned an International Studies Certificate after a semester of intensive study in the Middle East. A distant world away from and degree in music. I had continued to play and love to teach and perform during that time, but bad habits had taken hold, my skill had plateaued and even declined. I tried to focus on the fact that I had been accepted to my masters program and that there was a place for me to grow and progress there.
Facing the rigors of a Master of Music in violin performance forced my eyes wide open to the very real possibility of failure and a lack of control. My previously manageable performance jitters became overwhelming, even crippling. Playing for the professors and faculty was petrifying. I felt disdain from the women professors who seemed to scoff at the thought of a mother with the audacity to return to the music world and earn a graduate degree. Not all of them were this way, but the sentiment wasn’t veiled in anyway. Interestingly, playing to a concert hall full of music lovers was somehow less frightening than playing intimately for a small group of close friends and those who knew me best. I shared my deepest fears of performing and failing with my husband and a few select friends and supporters, who always encouraged me to continue anyway.
At a lesson before a solo recital my first year, I confided in my teacher that I was having trouble managing my fears of performing. I shared what a frustration it was to know the amount of work and effort I had put in, and knowing I was fully capable of incredible performances as I had rehearsed over and over again in an empty hall and in the dressing rooms off stage some afternoons. Those solo performances with no audience but empty chairs were soul performances. The kind where my heart would connect to my violin, tears would well up in my eyes as the music overwhelmed my senses. I lamented to my that I didn’t know what would come out of my violin when it was time for the performance that mattered to faculty and other students, and that my nervousness was preventing any heart from being a part of the performance.
He knew me well by then. He knew my dilemma, and had observed this stumbling block. He shrugged his shoulders and suggested beta blockers.
Beta blockers? I was unfamiliar.
The use of beta blockers among musicians has become quite common since the 1970s. The effect can lower blood pressure, hence, leading to a greater calm in performing and auditioning. According to arts medicine specialist Dr. Alice Brandfonbrenner, “Beta-blocking drugs, primarily propranolol, have proved to be safe and effective for many musicians as one means of temporarily controlling the negative physiological symptoms of performance anxiety.” Negative symptoms are anything that inhibits your best performance. A racing heart that becomes a distraction, hyperventilating or not breathing at all, cold/sweaty/hot hands, shakiness, scattered and distracted thoughts, crying, vomiting–there is a huge range of what is experienced. For a musician, the purpose of using beta blockers is to calm these negative symptoms of stage fright. There are also positive symptoms of stage fright that you don’t want to lose. A healthy amount of nervousness can lend to greater passion and energy in a performance. A quickened heart rate can give one greater intensity and purpose in sound. One can learn how to harness this energy to better communicate through performance and feel authentic on stage. Positive nervousness can keep one on their toes, at attention to the music they are sharing. Because beta blockers aren’t selective in their side effects, it’s difficult to know what positives a musician may dull in taking them.
Because I already had extremely low blood pressure at this junction, beta blockers were not an option for me. I had to actively search for other methods to help me turn my stage fright into an asset to my performances. I wanted to harness the positive symptoms of stage fright and subdue and control the negatives I experienced.
Knowing my struggle, a dear friend and avid golfer gave me a book that she said helped her golf game. This book was written to the musician, The Inner Game of Music, by Barry Green with W. Timothy Gallwey. It’s tagline promised to “overcome obstacles, improve concentration and reduce nervousness to reach a new level of musical performance.” It really was just what I needed. It helped me to identify my specific weaknesses and thought processes that were fueling the fire of my stage fright. I learned to control my thoughts in a different way while performing that increased my connection to the music I was sharing. I learned to breathe while performing. (My breathing would slow to almost nothing and had previously been an unconscious response that limited my muscle movement as the decrease in oxygen settled in).
I wasn’t fixed overnight, however, the benefits and changes to my ability to perform began to improve. I find much greater joy in performing now. I do not worry about nerves, only to the extent that I want to ignite them to give greater connection to my audience and the works of music I perform. I teach the techniques I have learned in my lessons with my students every day. It was powerful for me and I know it is a benefit to them.
I will share specifics in future posts, actionable items that my students and parents can use to understand their own stage fright responses and how to work with them in powerful ways. For now, I share this resource that was such timely help for my own journey in performance. No beta blockers required.
Here are a few interesting reads on the use of beta blockers: